Men Can Like Not-So-Manly Things

What does it mean to be masculine? That seems like a pretty loaded question, and I’m sure many different people would have very different responses. If you were to ask me specifically, I would say someone who is masculine is someone who is confident, assertive, and can stand up for himself, but can also be agreeable, friendly, and charismatic. Despite what modern feminists may try to tell you, there’s a difference between being confident and being arrogant, a difference between being assertive and being dominant, and if a man is being nice or hospitable to you, it is not always because he wants to get in your pants. I’m getting off-topic now.

On top of all the traits listed above, many other men will say that a masculine man should like traditionally manly things, like shooting guns, maintaining fitness, and watching action movies. While none of these aforementioned activities are bad or unhealthy on their own, this seemingly cliche description does raise an interesting question in terms of liking certain things not always marketed towards men.

James Allsup, a right-leaning political commentator and anti-SJW personality on YouTube, put up a video a few weeks ago entitled,”Leftists Demand to Ban All Guns” in which he verbalizes his thoughts on a musical cartoon about gun control. Now, I agree with most of what Allsup has to say in this video, but there is one thing he mentions that just doesn’t sit right with me. In the video, Allsup states outright that, “musicals are geared towards women, children, and homosexuals,” and that he’s, “not in their target demographic.” Granted, he never says that any of this is really a bad thing, but the way he said it just seems very condescending, as if he’s saying that if you are a man and like musicals, that must mean you’re either gay, a complete beta, or both. However, despite the belief of Allsup and other men with his mindset, this just simply isn’t the case.

Look at that list of traits in the first paragraph. What do they all have in common? They all have to do with how you act, rather than pertaining to what you like or enjoy. With that in mind, also consider this: Just because you don’t explicitly reside within a particular target demographic (whether it be a movie, a video game, or anything else) doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it. If it doesn’t keep you from practicing and displaying those masculine traits, just enjoy it. In fact, feel free to participate in it as well. I myself have performed in ballets (as a musician, not a dancer), sung in choirs, and been a member of drama clubs, but I’ve also climbed the highest peak in the continental United States, traveled fifty miles in a kayak on the Colorado River unassisted, and have been shooting guns since I was twelve years old. As far as TV, movies, and video games, I’m a huge fan of the Super Mario Bros., Metroid, and Lego franchises, but I also love games like Smite, Overwatch, the Batman Arkham games, Injustice, Halo, and Mortal Kombat. Some of my favorite movies are Disney animated movies and I also love going to Disneyland even as an adult, and I also love movies like Star Wars, Indiana Jones, The Matrix, and Lord of the Rings. Even though I have come to love things like Disney movies and some chick flicks, there hasn’t been a moment in my life where I haven’t stopped practicing and displaying those traits that have defined me as a man.

I’ve known plenty of other men in my life who have liked similar things as I do, and they’ve been the gentlemen I consistently look up to as male role models. In short, you shouldn’t let what you like or don’t like define you as a man. All that should matter is how you present yourself and how you act around people. If you can maintain your assertiveness, leadership skills, and confidence, why should it matter what you happen to enjoy?


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